Number 1: Give Him a Hand at Managing His Emotions
• Help him find solutions.
Number 2: Teach Empathy
• Play “what-if.”
• Encourage him to read novels.
Number 3: Strengthen His Sense of Self
• Skip the false praise.
• Don’t label him.
Number 4: Instill Respect for Others
• Set rules and enforce them.
• Set a good example.
Number 5: Show Affection
and.... for dad's.....
Three key things dads (and uncles, brothers, friends, grandpas, cousins, etc) can do.
Be there. “It sounds so simple, but it’s a profound thing for a son to have a father who spends a lot of time with him,” says Warren. Boys get the message: Dad loves me, enjoys my company, and is available if I need him—which gives them a sense of security and demonstrates what good dads do.
Treat women well. One of the ways a boy learns how to relate to women is by watching his father. “So when a dad interacts with women, especially his wife, he should be able to admit when he’s wrong, apologize when necessary, and speak and behave respectfully, especially during a disagreement,” Warren points out.
Get physical. Studies show that the kind of playful wrestling or roughhousing that many dads share with their sons helps boys learn to control their physical impulses and regulate their emotions. “In addition, the physical touch of a father hugging and kissing his son is incredibly affirming for boys,” adds Warren.